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Bedridden and Helpless

In the middle of pandemic due to several variants of covid19, people easily get sick tremendously. Many people are still recovering from sickness. Some of them are still in the worse medical condition due to complications. Most of the time, these people are bedridden and helpless in the hospital, quarantine facility or home quarantine.

Do you know the feelings of the patient being isolated, bedridden and helpless? Do you know also the feelings of the bedside caregiver monitoring the 24-hour medical condition of the patient? It is very tough to become a patient or a caregiver. Patients and caregivers are really experiencing physical, mental, emotional and financial pains.

Physical Pain

Medical patients are experiencing physical pains. They cannot turn over their bodies by themselves because they are so weak. Their blood cannot circulate well which may turn into bedsores and develop into skin wounds that prone to infection. They cannot open their eyes to see everything around. They cannot open their mouth to say something what they need. They cannot eat well using their mouth. Instead, they eat through nasal tubing that brings out physical discomfort. They can sense the pain while injecting the needles on their bodies. They cannot move their bodies voluntarily. They stay on their body positions for several hours.

Likewise, caregivers of these patients have physical pains too. They stay with them most of the time and monitor their health condition. They patiently lift up the patient’s body when needed. They patiently feed them and allow them sip some liquids in order to prevent dehydration. They quickly respond to the patient’s needs like changing diaper, cleansing the whole body and changing clothes.

Mental Pain

Medical patients are experiencing mental pain. They have many thoughts. They think negatively most of the time. Thoughts like what if they cannot survive. What will happen to them? Who will take good care of their families? Where are my children? Do they come?

Similarly, caregivers have mental pains too. They are worrying about the patient’s severe condition. They are thinking about what will happen next. Thoughts such as what they will tell to their families and how they will tell it. Do they feel sorry about it or just listen to what the family will say? Most of the time, caregivers are confused mentally. They cannot decide wisely on certain things.

Emotional Pain

Medical patients are experiencing emotional pain. They can only hear the voices around. They feel very sad that brings out unstoppable falling tears from their eyes. Patients know that they will die anytime. With their conscious mind, they pray silently. It is really difficult for them to leave their families, relatives and friends. It is very tough and heartbreaking process of separation in their entire life. They want to win the fight for life but they are helpless to do it.

Caregivers have emotional pains too. It is hard for them to look at the patients who are suffering from severe illnesses. They can feel the deep pain internally. They also cry and feel sad. They try to comfort the patients by all means.

Financial Pain

Medical patients and their families are experiencing financial pain. They spend much money and have developed huge debts from hospitalization costs, medical procedures, professional fees and medicines. They spend from hundreds to millions value amount of any currency. The outpatients incur medical expenses, food supplements and other necessary materials such as diapers, alcohol, bath soap and wipes.

Sometimes, caregivers are experiencing financial pain too. Most of the time, the caregivers are close relatives of the patients. If the family has poor economic condition, the caregiver usually provides the needs of the patient unselfishly. Being front liners, caregivers provide their humane services to the patients unconditionally.

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Remembering Mother on Mother’s Day

19 Apr

A mother who is looking and waiting for her loving mother.

What is a Mother’s Day without your loving and caring mother? Do you know that every part of a single mother worth more than a million? Let me explain its value.

Your Head

As a single mother, you used the top of your head to carry a bundle of newly harvested rice grains for meal; a bundle of firewood for cooking or a basin of Anchovy fish for selling. You also used your head to think wisely and find right solutions for the daily problems.

Your Eyes

As a single mother, you kept your eyes to your children for their safety. You used your eyes to discipline your children. Eyes that maybe big and wide; on-focus or understanding and kind-looking to your concern. Sleepless nights in times of sickness of your children just to ensure they were safe.

Your Nose

As a single mother, you used your nose if the newly laundry clothes were smelled pleasant and if the children were smelled stinky already and they need to take a bath.

Your Ears

As a single mother, you used your ears to listen to your children and grandchildren’s amazing stories. Through your ears, you heard the sound of the roosters in the early morning wherein you rise from bed instantly to fetch up water for daily consumption.

Your Mouth

As a single mother, you used your mouth to give pieces of advice to your children and grandchildren. You taught them the right things and told them to become nice and hardworking person with brighter dreams in life.

Your Shoulder

As a single mother, you used your shoulder to carry the “Buli” bag or “Pandan” bag with fruits and vegetables inside when going home after the whole-day work in the rice field.

Your Breast

As a single mother, you breastfed your young children regularly so that they will grow healthy someday and free from any kind of illnesses.

Your Heart

As a single mother, you provided unconditional love to your children and grandchildren. You have a big heart too to your parents, brother, sisters, nephews, nieces, husband and in-laws. You knew how to accept and how to forgive persons. You really loved them so much.

Your Arms

As a single mother, you used your arms to strongly uproot the rice seedlings, transplant them on rice fields and harvest the rice grains after a few months. You used your strong arms to pound and manually mill the greener rice grains up and down then filter them using “Bilao” to make it into whiter rice grains.

Your Hands

As a single mother, you used your hands to prepare “Buli” or “Pandan” fibers, weave and design them properly into a local mat for sale. You used your hands to catch fishes along the shallow river and pick up shells on the shoreline with your siblings and children. You used your hands to wash the clothes of your children and grandchildren then press these clothes after drying. You used your hand to put the wet face towel on his/her forehead when he/she has fever. You used your hands too in giving foods to the very young children and elderly people around you.

Your Waist

As a single mother, either be sunny day or rainy day, you bent your waist the whole day while planting rice seedlings on the rice fields for a little payment or non-monetized payment of your labor instead, work exchange.

Your Hips

As a single mother, you sit on your hips almost the whole night just to weave and finish intentionally the local mat so that you can sell it then later buy some foods for your children, grandchildren and sister.

Your Legs

As a single mother, you used your legs in walking distantly about two kilometers away from your home to your work place and do the same routine when going home from work place to your home. Your legs consumed all the energy reserved in walking after the whole-day work. You also walked in going to the church to attend Holy Mass with your sisters on Saturday evening regularly. You bent your knees whenever you pray.

Your Feet

As a single mother, you used your feet not only to separate the greener rice grains from its husk but also to clean up the house floor. You used your feet to stand up firmly against all tough moments that trying to bring you down but they fail. You courageously stood still and never give up.

Thus, for this special day wherein everybody celebrates the Mother’s Day and for this special occasion wherein every member of the family comes together, what is a Mother’s Day without your loving and caring mother? What is a Mother’s Day without her presence?

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The Last Few Words and Cries

13 Apr

“I am telling you. Be kind to others. Help others who need your help. God bless you.”

(Teofila Mas Meron)

In times of sorrow, can you still remember the last few words of a dying person that you love most? I would like to share with you the last few words and cries of my loving mother that might break your heart and bring your eyes into tears.

10. While on her bed, my mother said with eyes closed, “Catawan, engangaro wan Mo cami. Pano na cami a pinalsa Mo?” (Zambal)

(Tagalog) “Diyos ko, Kaawaan Mo kami. Paano na kami na nilalang Mo?”

(English) “God, have mercy on us. How about us of your creation?”

At the age of 94, my mother still remember the Almighty God who created everything. In her entire life, she frequently prayed to God and attended the Holy Mass regularly.

9. On her bed, my mother said with her eyes closed, “Indo, Caca, taganan moyo co. Indo, Caca, taganan moyo co.” “Takpan! Takpan!”(Zambal)

(Tagalog) “Nanay, Ate, hintayin ninyo ako. Nanay, Ate, hintayin ninyo ako.” “Takipan! Takipan!”

(English) “Mother, Sister, wait for me. Mother, Sister, wait for me.” “Cover up!, Cover up!”

My mother was the youngest and favorite child in their family. She loved her mother and sister so much. My mother saw brilliant brightness.

8. My mother said with eyes closed, “Alalayan moyo co.” (Zambal)

(Tagalog) “Tulungan ninyo ako.”

(English) “Help me.”

My mother had ready helping hands to anybody who needs help.

7. Suddenly, my mother was crying loudly while pointing her diaphragm, “Masakit eti! masakit eti!” (Zambal)

(Tagalog)”Masakit dito! masakit dito!”

(English) “Painful here! Painful here!”

My mother never complained even in rough times of her life.

6. My mother requested with eyes closed, “Dasalan moyo co.” (Zambal)

(Tagalog) “Dasalan ninyo ako.”

(English) “Pray for me.”

My mother always pray for everyone’s wellness.

5. While inside the ambulance rushing into the hospital, my mother shouted, “Cacoyna labay! Cacoyna labay! Tama na! Tama na! (Zambal)

(Tagalog) “Ayaw ko na!, Ayaw ko na! Tama na! Tama na!

(English) “I don’t like it! I don’t like it! Stop! Stop!

My mother never stops for being a good mother and grandmother to us.

4. While in the hospital bed, my mother said again with eyes closed, “Catawan, engangaro wan Mo cami. Pano na cami a pinalsa mo” (Zambal)

(Tagalog) “Diyos ko, Kaawaan Mo kami. Paano na kami na nilalang Mo?”

(English) “God, have mercy on us. How about us of your creation?”

My mother was a strong believer of God. She had strong faith at all times.

3. Still on her bed, my mother said with eyes closed, “Tambayan moyo co. Tambalan moyo co.” (Zambal)

(Tagalog) “Tulungan ninyo ako. Gamutin ninyo ako.”

(English) “Help me. Heal me.”

My mother was a good helper. She was very kind to children and elders.

2. Still on her bed, my mother said softly with eyes closed, “Abuloyon moyo co.” (Zambal)

(Tagalog) “Tulungan ninyo ako.”

(English) “Help me.”

My mother helped her family. She really loved them so much.

1. Still on her severe body condition, my mother uttered softly, “Ya.” (Zambal)

(Tagalog) “Oo.”

(English) “Yes.”

My mother had strong influential words that anybody should decide and follow. She disciplined, guided and mentored us appropriately.

My mother just nodded her head when I talked and asked her until her complete consciousness had gone.

Yes, my mother was gone but her legacy, advises, courage, greatness, kindness, faith, laughter, memories, dreams and so forth remain in our hearts as we live.

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Categories life, Philosophy, Psychology

Cantan Sambali ni Nanay Openg

1 Sep

Naynay tana congco, lolo catatangis

No sicay cayna biyay a maisip-isip

Siay luwa sa mata mantulo mapilit

Bana sa labi mon bigla mon inalis

Ayte moyna kari, ayte mo inimbi

A pamilabi ta tan pamikawili

Hino ya cot orin labas a babaye

A namiwan mon maigot nin labi

Mangibat sa wanin cakoyna mangoman

Makilabi-labi maparas manglingwan

Ta no maisip-isip tan mapapanumtuman

Siay luwa sa mata, permin balayabay.

Mangibat sa wanin cayco na umanon

Makilabi-labin maganap a nakom

Ta no maisip-isip tan mapapanumtuman

Siay luwa sa mata, permi yan andaloy

Siay canakoman ko, alangan ya comon

Ta masubot abrian a buboy

Tagarilya dila, kulop kon man-goygoy

Sa calak-an moyo sa kongco mampangimaton

Cayco comon magwa, nacom koy masubot

Magcanta sa sayte, o campo nical ngod

Anggan cantan bungat, ambo nin maganos

Malayop a oras, caldungan kan say-ngot

Cayco comon magawa, nacom ko tan buboy

Umarap sa campo ta ambo marunong

Nakaragdag congko, nakapatpol nacom

Galang yay nanugo, wangcon balangunon.

Sin sicoy sinmiban a inalila la

Mangibat sinlumbit hilay nagpasensya

Lalo sin nilumwas lako a irap la

Lalo pamasuso tan pamiliwaliwa

Sa wanin balo ta sinmiban ako

Isugo lako wari cot kayko nin mako

Ta ibuyboy la kongco a pamasiban la

Kayco makabayar anggan sa angga

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Tags: love, mother, pag-ibig, Philippines, Sambal song, Sambali, Sambaltina, Zambal, Zambales

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“Thanks God, I am still alive.”

15 Jul

Thanks God, I am still alive,
Coz I have the mission to survive,
And have the human rights for life.
They need my presence and tender, loving care,
Thus, they always ready to support my basic needs.

Thanks God, I am still alive,
To breathe the fresh air and hear the sound of the wind,
To see the raindrops falling on the green leaves,
To smell the favorite foods on the table,
And ready to eat fruits and drink milk any time.

Thanks God, I am still alive.
To hear the Holy Mass every Sunday,
To strengthen my faith on Him and receive His blessings,
To glorify and praise Him because of the wonderful things,
That He had given to me including my own life.

Tags: care, child, children, disabled person, faith, father, God, less fortunate citizen, life, love, mother, patient, person with special needs, poor person, sick person, thanksgiving

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Categories life, Poem, Writing

Salve

21 May

Salve

(Zambal prayer recited by my 92-year old mother, Teofila Mas Meron)

Salve, Santa Marian ari

Ina a mapaengangaro

Sicay cabiayan tan casamitan

Sicay mampasimalaan mi

Salve, hicay mancatanawon mi

Pinalakwan tawon anak ni Eva

Hicay mampanginawawon mi

Malawig catatangis iti sa luta sankaluluan

Hicay mampatrunan mi

ilinga mo sa comi

silay luway mata mo

nin maipangangaro

ta baling mayari ana

pamanlakwan mo sa comi

ipakit sa comi

hilay luway mata mo maipangangaro

ta baling mayari ana iti

pamalakwan mo sa comi

ipakit mo sa comi

a anak mo si Hesus

O marunong, maipangangaro

Masamit lawas Birhen Maria

Ipasisingaro mo kami

Ha masantan ina nan Dios

Pigaw kami comana, makinabang

Ha mablin taw tipan ni Jesukristo. Amen

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Tags: aging mother, dasal, grandmother, great grandmother, mother, Philippines, prayer, salve, Zambales

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Categories Philippines, Writing

Mother’s Day

13 May

Mother’s Day

You are a great mother to me.

Because you gave me life and showed me the world;

You are a special mother to me.

Because you care and love me tenderly;

You are a wonderful teacher to me.

Because you teach and guide me all the time;

With that, I wish you a great, special and wonderful Mother’s Day.

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Ang Iyong Nanay (Your Mother)

30 Oct

nanay ko

Sa pagdadalantao at pagpapakain sa iyo, ang iyong Nanay ang tumutulong at nag-aalaga sa iyo.

Sa pag-aalaga sa iyo kung ikaw ay magsakit, ang iyong Nanay ang nagmamalasakit sa iyo.

Sa pagmamalasakit sa iyo upang ikaw ay makapag-aral, ang iyong Nanay ang palaging nangangaral.

Sa pangangaral sa iyo upang ikaw ay lumaki ng matiwasay, ang iyong Nanay ang umaalalay at umaagapay.

Sa pag-aagapay sa iyo upang paglabanan ang anumang unos sa buhay, ang iyong Nanay ay nariyan at dumaramay.

Sa pagdamay at pagtulong mo sa kapwa, ang iyong Nanay ay natutuwa sa iyong mga gawi at gawain

Sa iyong mga gawain na kaaya-aya, ang iyong Nanay ay laging masaya sa iyong pinapakita.

Sa iyong pinapakitang sipag at pag-aabot ng kita para sa iyong ama’t ina at pamilya, sa kanilang dalawa ay sadyang napakahalaga.

Sa iyong pagpapahalaga sa pamilya, ang iyong Nanay ang nagtuturo sa iyo, di ba?

Sa iyong pagtuturo saan man, ang pangaral ng iyong Nanay ang hindi mo makalimutan kailanman.

Kailanman, maging sino at saan ka man, hahanapin at susundin mo iyong Nanay

Ang iyong Nanay na mapagmahal, mapagkalinga at mapagbigay sa iyo at sa iyong pamilya

Pamilya na may ningning, saya at sigla kapag mayroon at nariyan ang Nanay.

Kaya, habang ang iyong Nanay ay nabubuhay, buo mong pagmamahal ay nararapat lamang na ibigay sa iyong Nanay.

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Nanay Magpakailanman (Mother Forever)

8 May

nanay ko (2)

Bago ipanganak (Before Birth)

Nanay (Mother): “Asawa ko! Mukhang manganganak na ako ngayon kasi humihilab na ang tiyan ko.” “Aray”!

(“Hubby, I think I will deliver my baby now because my tummy is aching.” “Ouch”!

Tatay (Father): “Sige, Mahal. Dadalhin kita sa ospital ngayon din”

(“Yes, Dear. I will bring you to the hospital right now”)

Pagkatapos ng Isang Buwan (After a month)

Sanggol (Infant): (umiiyak) “Whaaaa, whaaaa!”

(crying) “Whaaaa, whaaaa!”

Nanay (Mother): (nagmamadali) “Dito na ako, anak. Pasususuhin na kita.”

(in a hurry) “I am already here, baby to breastfeed you.”

Pagkatapos ng isang taon (After a year)

Anak (Baby): “Nanay, Nanay”

(“Mother, Mother”)

Nanay (Mother): (niyakap) “Wow, ang galing, galing mo naman, anak ko”

(hugged the baby) “Wow, you are so smart, my baby.”)

Pagkatapos ng limang taon (After five (5) years)

Anak (Son/Daughter): “Nanay, masama po ang aking pakiramdam.”

(“Mom, I am not feeling well.”)

Nanay (Mother): “Ipatingin kita sa manggagamot.”

(“Let us see the medical doctor.”)

Pagkatapos ng sampung taon (After ten (10) years)

Anak (Son/Daughter): “Nanay, gusto ko po mamasyal, kumain at makatanggap ng regalo sa kaarawan ko”.

(Mom, I would like to take a walk, dine-in with you and receive a gift on my birthday.”)

Nanay (Mother): “Sige, anak. Bastat maging mabait kang bata ay matutupad ang mga kahilingan mo.”

(Son/Daughter, as long as you will be a good child, your wishes will be granted.”)

Pagkatapos ng labinlimang taon (After fifteen (15) years)

Anak (Son/Daughter): “Nanay, nakatapos na ako ng pag-aaral na may karangalan.” “Maraming salamat po sa inyo.”

(“Mom, I graduated already with flying colors.” “Thank you so much.”)

Nanay (Mother): (napakasaya) “Masayang-masaya ako, anak dahil nakatapos ka na may karangalan.”

(very happy) (“I am very happy that you graduated with flying colors, my son/daughter.”)

Pagkatapos ng limang taon (After five (5) years)

Anak (Son/Daughter): “Nanay, mag-aasawa na po ako.”

(“Mom, I am getting married.)

Nanay (Mother): “Binabati kita at hangad ko ang iyong kaligayan at tagumpay.”

(Congratulations and I wish for your happiness and success.”)

Pagkatapos ng sampung taon (After ten (10) years)

Anak (Son/Daughter): “Nanay, heto na po ang mga apo ninyo.”

(“Mom, Here are your grandchildren.”

Nanay (Mother): “Wow, ang gaganda at ang popogi nila.”

(Wow, they are so pretty and handsome.”)

Pagkatapos ng limampung taon (After fifty (50) years)

Nanay (Mother): (umiiyak) “Matanda na ako at malapit ng mamatay. Ano mang oras ay babalik na ako sa Diyos. Tangi mong pakatandaan na mahalin at pangalagaan mo ang iyong pamilya tulad ng pagmamahal at pangangalaga ko sa iyo noong ikaw ay bata pa, habang lumalaki hanggang magkaroon ng sariling pamilya.”

(crying) (“I am already old and getting nearer to death. Anytime, I will go back to God. Just remember, you have to love and care your own family as what I did love and care to you when you were young and getting older until you have your own family.”)

Anak (Son/Daughter): (umiiyak) “Nanay ko na pinakamamahal ko. Kung ang Diyos ang nagbigay ng buhay sa akin, Ikaw, Nanay ko ang nagbigay ng kulay ng buhay ko. Ako ay lubos na nagpapasalamat sa iyo, Nanay, sa lahat ng mga bagay na ipinagkaloob mo sa akin. Wala po kayong katulad. Napakadakila po kayong nanay para sa akin at sa aking pamilya. Hindi lang po, masayang pagbati ng Mother’s Day sa inyo kundi masayang Mother’s Forever sa inyo.”

(crying) (“My beloved Mom. If God gave me life, You, my Mother, gave colors in my life.” I am very thankful to you for all the things that you had given to me. You are incomparable. You are the greatest mother for me and for my family. It is not only the greetings of Mother’s Day to you but also the happiest Mother Forever to you.”)

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Mother and You

27 Mar

When was the last time your mother hugs you? When was the last time you see your mother smiling? When was the last time your mother asks or tells you something? Do you listen? Do you care or show concern? If your answer is yes, you are lucky enough.

God gave life to you. Your mother nourished that life for you. She carried you in her womb for several months. She could even smile after giving birth of a healthy baby. Sometimes, she never slept and felt anxious when you were crying if you had an illness.

As you grew older, your mother helped you to sit down, stand up and walk until you can do it by yourself. When you started to go to school, she taught you how to read, write and count things. She defended you and fought for your rights if somebody was doing wrong against you. She always provided things that you need. She advised and guided you all the time. She felt very happy and proud whenever you achieved something or received an award. She felt sorry for you when you failed to achieve your dreams.

When you became a matured person and had your own family, your mother was always there and never left you. She took good care of your children. She helped you in doing household chores. She felt very happy seeing her grandchildren playing, singing or dancing. Sometimes, she threw out jokes with them.

The time passed by and your mother was getting older. Her body and mind were already deteriorating. She often got sick. She could not sit down, stand up and walk by herself. Your mother could no longer do the things that she used to do for you and your family when she was young. She always felt the pains and sufferings due to her illness.

Did you feel sorry for her bad health condition? What immediate action that you did to prolong her life? Do you really love your mother? Do you really care? Do you let her go or not?

Tags: adulthood, care, concern, daughter, Easter Sunday, family, health, illness, love, mother, parenthood, responsibility, sacrifice, senior citizen, sickness, son, sufferings, values

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