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Bedridden and Helpless

17 Aug

In the middle of pandemic due to several variants of covid19, people easily get sick tremendously. Many people are still recovering from sickness.  Some of them are still in the worse medical condition due to complications. Most of the time, these people are bedridden and helpless in the hospital, quarantine facility or home quarantine.

Do you know the feelings of the patient being isolated, bedridden and helpless? Do you know also the feelings of the bedside caregiver monitoring the 24-hour medical condition of the patient? It is very tough to become a patient or a caregiver. Patients and caregivers are really experiencing physical, mental, emotional and financial pains.

Physical Pain

Medical patients are experiencing physical pains.  They cannot turn over their bodies by themselves because they are so weak. Their blood cannot circulate well which may turn into bedsores and develop into skin wounds that prone to infection. They cannot open their eyes to see everything around. They cannot open their mouth to say something what they need. They cannot eat well using their mouth. Instead, they eat through nasal tubing that brings out physical discomfort. They can sense the pain while injecting the needles on their bodies. They cannot move their bodies voluntarily.  They stay on their body positions for several hours.

Likewise, caregivers of these patients have physical pains too. They stay with them most of the time and monitor their health condition. They patiently lift up the patient’s body when needed. They patiently feed them and allow them sip some liquids in order to prevent dehydration. They quickly respond to the patient’s needs like changing diaper, cleansing the whole body and changing clothes.

Mental Pain

Medical patients are experiencing mental pain.  They have many thoughts.  They think negatively most of the time.  Thoughts like what if they cannot survive.  What will happen to them? Who will take good care of their families? Where are my children? Do they come?

Similarly, caregivers have mental pains too.  They are worrying about the patient’s severe condition.  They are thinking about what will happen next. Thoughts such as what they will tell to their families and how they will tell it. Do they feel sorry about it or just listen to what the family will say? Most of the time, caregivers are confused mentally. They cannot decide wisely on certain things.

Emotional Pain

Medical patients are experiencing emotional pain.  They can only hear the voices around.  They feel very sad that brings out unstoppable falling tears from their eyes.  Patients know that they will die anytime.  With their conscious mind, they pray silently. It is really difficult for them to leave their families, relatives and friends. It is very tough and heartbreaking process of separation in their entire life. They want to win the fight for life but they are helpless to do it.

Caregivers have emotional pains too. It is hard for them to look at the patients who are suffering from severe illnesses.  They can feel the deep pain internally. They also cry and feel sad.  They try to comfort the patients by all means.

Financial Pain

Medical patients and their families are experiencing financial pain. They spend much money and have developed huge debts from hospitalization costs, medical procedures, professional fees and medicines. They spend from hundreds to millions value amount of any currency. The outpatients incur medical expenses, food supplements and other necessary materials such as diapers, alcohol, bath soap and wipes.

Sometimes, caregivers are experiencing financial pain too.  Most of the time, the caregivers are close relatives of the patients.  If the family has poor economic condition, the caregiver usually provides the needs of the patient unselfishly. Being front liners, caregivers provide their humane services to the patients unconditionally.

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Mother and You

27 Mar

When was the last time your mother hugs you? When was the last time you see your mother smiling? When was the last time your mother asks or tells you something? Do you listen? Do you care or show concern? If your answer is yes, you are lucky enough.

God gave life to you. Your mother nourished that life for you. She carried you in her womb for several months. She could even smile after giving birth of a healthy baby. Sometimes, she never slept and felt anxious when you were crying if you had an illness.

As you grew older, your mother helped you to sit down, stand up and walk until you can do it by yourself. When you started to go to school, she taught you how to read, write and count things. She defended you and fought for your rights if somebody was doing wrong against you. She always provided things that you need. She advised and guided you all the time.  She felt very happy and proud whenever you achieved something or received an award. She felt sorry for you when you failed to achieve your dreams.

When you became a matured person and had your own family, your mother was always there and never left you. She took good care of your children. She helped you in doing household chores.  She felt very happy seeing her grandchildren playing, singing or dancing.  Sometimes, she threw out jokes with them.

The time passed by and your mother was getting older. Her body and mind were already deteriorating.  She often got sick. She could not sit down, stand up and walk by herself.  Your mother could no longer do the things that she used to do for you and your family when she was young.  She always felt the pains and sufferings due to her illness.

Did you feel sorry for her bad health condition? What immediate action that you did to prolong her life? Do you really love your mother? Do you really care? Do you let her go or not?

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Please Don’t Leave Me Alone

8 May

My dear children,

Please don’t leave me alone.  I am your mother and you are my children.  I am already 95 years old. I don’t want to stay in the home for the aged. I want to stay with you to the rest of my life because I really love all of you very much.

I could still remember when I was with my mother.  She said, “My daughter, when you grow older, I want you to get married and have your own family so that your children can take care of you when you get old.  I cannot stay with you forever.” I followed my mother’s advice.  When I found out the right man whom I love, I got married and started to raise my own family.  My children’s names are Mary, Oliver, Theresa, Henry, Eric and Rebecca.

M for Mary

Mary, you are a professional teacher now.  I remembered when you were young, you loved to read books and shared the stories with me.  I could see how happy you are every time I listened to your stories. Now, you got promoted as school principal and also a mother with five children.

O for Oliver

Oliver, you are already a successful businessman.  I remembered when you were young. you loved to sell candies to our neighbors.  Then, you saved your earning into your piggy bank. I could see your efforts to promote your candies. Now, you own already a department store and also a father with two children.

T for Theresa

Theresa, you are a medical doctor now.  I remembered when you were young, you were consistent honor student.  You were always asking me many things which sometimes I could not answer it anymore.  Now, you are one of the stockholders of the hospital and also a mother with four children.

H for Henry

Henry, you are already an engineer.  I remembered when you were young; you loved to play blocks and Legos.  You built structures out of blocks and Legos.  Now, you own and manage a construction company and also a father with six children.

E for Eric

Eric, you are a licensed lawyer now.  I remembered when you were young; you were always engaged in a fight for defending your playmates and classmates against bully children. Now, you are a well-recognized lawyer of this present generation and a father with three children.

R for Rebecca

Rebecca, you are a great artist now.  I remembered when you were young; you loved to draw, paint, sing, dance and act.  Everybody got amused every time you perform in front of us. Now, you are doing series of TV commercials and one of the casts of upcoming movie and also a mother with one child.

Do you know that I am very proud to all of you? I understand how busy you are with your families and with your chosen professions. However, I would like to request from you that please don’t send me into the home for the aged.  In fairness, I know that many homes for the aged provide excellent services to their clients.  But… I love to stay with you as my own children to the rest of my life. I need yourtime, love and care especially when the time came that I cannot remember or recognize you due to  my severe dementia or cannot see, hear or touch you anymore.

I hope that my request be granted this Mother’s Day.

Lovingly yours,

Your Mother

 

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