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Podcast Episode: Hapunan sa Isang Kainan

9 Aug
People dining and socializing in a busy Filipino restaurant with colorful decorations

Friends and families enjoying Filipino food in a vibrant restaurant

Pip: Dreams are the original unfiltered content — no editor, no algorithm, just your sleeping brain running a dinner reservation with maximum complications.

Mara: masmeron’s recent writing takes us into that territory: a vivid dream of a family dinner, with strangers, crowded benches, and a quiet question about welcome and belonging. Let’s start with that dinner.

A Dream Dinner, Crowded Benches, and a Stranger at the Table

Pip: The setup here is a packed restaurant, a family trying to find seats, and a stranger who needs a place to sit — the kind of small social moment that dreams somehow make feel enormous.

Mara: The post describes the scene in careful detail, and then the narrator quietly asks a sister, “Pwede ba siya makikain sa atin? Magugustuhan kaya niya yung pagkaing Pinoy.” The sister’s answer is generous but honest: she can join, but she might feel awkward competing for food, and she won’t eat her fill.

Pip: That exchange is doing a lot of work. It’s not just about a seat at the table — it’s about whether a stranger can really be comfortable there, whether hospitality has limits even when the invitation is genuine.

Mara: The restaurant itself is drawn with real texture: warm yellow light, a long folding bench designed with individual sections, a shorter bench that the narrator immediately notices isn’t big enough for the whole group. The family ends up near the entrance, right in the way of foot traffic.

Pip: Seated at the door, not quite inside, not quite outside — which is a pretty good metaphor for the whole dream, honestly. The stranger is in the same in-between position: she’s at the table, but the food is Filipino, and the question of whether she’ll really belong there is left open.

Mara: The woman who joins them is described as Hispanic-looking, carrying paper bags from what seem like purchases, and she stands in front of their table weighing whether to sit. She eventually does — on that short bench — and then the narrator sees her again, or someone like her, queuing to wash hands before the meal, wearing the same black sleeveless dress.

Pip: The dream ends at 7:30 on a Saturday morning, the narrator waking and reflecting on the ceiling. It’s a small, quiet ending for something that clearly left an impression.

Mara: What stays with you is that the dream doesn’t resolve the question it raises. The stranger sits down, but we never find out if she eats, or how it goes.


Pip: Belonging is one of those questions that doesn’t wait for daylight to ask itself.

Mara: Next time, more from that same territory — the small moments that turn out to be the large ones.

Bedridden and Helpless

17 Aug

In the middle of pandemic due to several variants of covid19, people easily get sick tremendously. Many people are still recovering from sickness.  Some of them are still in the worse medical condition due to complications. Most of the time, these people are bedridden and helpless in the hospital, quarantine facility or home quarantine.

Do you know the feelings of the patient being isolated, bedridden and helpless? Do you know also the feelings of the bedside caregiver monitoring the 24-hour medical condition of the patient? It is very tough to become a patient or a caregiver. Patients and caregivers are really experiencing physical, mental, emotional and financial pains.

Physical Pain

Medical patients are experiencing physical pains.  They cannot turn over their bodies by themselves because they are so weak. Their blood cannot circulate well which may turn into bedsores and develop into skin wounds that prone to infection. They cannot open their eyes to see everything around. They cannot open their mouth to say something what they need. They cannot eat well using their mouth. Instead, they eat through nasal tubing that brings out physical discomfort. They can sense the pain while injecting the needles on their bodies. They cannot move their bodies voluntarily.  They stay on their body positions for several hours.

Likewise, caregivers of these patients have physical pains too. They stay with them most of the time and monitor their health condition. They patiently lift up the patient’s body when needed. They patiently feed them and allow them sip some liquids in order to prevent dehydration. They quickly respond to the patient’s needs like changing diaper, cleansing the whole body and changing clothes.

Mental Pain

Medical patients are experiencing mental pain.  They have many thoughts.  They think negatively most of the time.  Thoughts like what if they cannot survive.  What will happen to them? Who will take good care of their families? Where are my children? Do they come?

Similarly, caregivers have mental pains too.  They are worrying about the patient’s severe condition.  They are thinking about what will happen next. Thoughts such as what they will tell to their families and how they will tell it. Do they feel sorry about it or just listen to what the family will say? Most of the time, caregivers are confused mentally. They cannot decide wisely on certain things.

Emotional Pain

Medical patients are experiencing emotional pain.  They can only hear the voices around.  They feel very sad that brings out unstoppable falling tears from their eyes.  Patients know that they will die anytime.  With their conscious mind, they pray silently. It is really difficult for them to leave their families, relatives and friends. It is very tough and heartbreaking process of separation in their entire life. They want to win the fight for life but they are helpless to do it.

Caregivers have emotional pains too. It is hard for them to look at the patients who are suffering from severe illnesses.  They can feel the deep pain internally. They also cry and feel sad.  They try to comfort the patients by all means.

Financial Pain

Medical patients and their families are experiencing financial pain. They spend much money and have developed huge debts from hospitalization costs, medical procedures, professional fees and medicines. They spend from hundreds to millions value amount of any currency. The outpatients incur medical expenses, food supplements and other necessary materials such as diapers, alcohol, bath soap and wipes.

Sometimes, caregivers are experiencing financial pain too.  Most of the time, the caregivers are close relatives of the patients.  If the family has poor economic condition, the caregiver usually provides the needs of the patient unselfishly. Being front liners, caregivers provide their humane services to the patients unconditionally.

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What is your birthday wish?

17 Aug

Birthday cake with candles surrounded by boxes listing wishes for happiness, health & prosperity, adventure & success, and love & friendship

A colorful birthday image showcasing four wish categories around a decorated cake.

Our birthday is one of the most celebrated events in our life.  We give thanks to the Almighty God who had given us life.  We do acknowledge our loving family who had raised up and guided us to become better citizens of the world.  We appreciate the presence of our friends, neighbors, co-workers and relatives for their wonderful supports in times of urgent needs.  Some people enumerate their birthday wishes as follows:

Good Health

Most people wish that they get maintain good health on their birthday and to the rest of their lives.  How can you determine the taste of delicious birthday foods  if you cannot eat them anymore because you are severely sicked?  How can you feel the joy of having a birthday party if you cannot sing or dance with your guests anymore?  People should stay fit all the time so that they can do wholesome activities which they want to do.

Better Income or Profits

Most people wish that they get better job or business venture to increase their income or profits.  How can you treat yourself and your family on your birthday if your individual income  goes from paycheck to paycheck only?  How can you expand your business if you have limited resources to run your business? For economic reasons, people should look for a better job  or business opportunity wherein it may bring them into a higher income or generate more profits in order to meet their daily needs.  They want to save their money for long-term use.

Best Family

Most people wish their own family to be the best.  How can your family live peacefully and happily together if some members of your family are fighting to one another for some reasons?  How can your family be united if some family members are separated from each other by distance, wealth, life principles, faith, values, attitude, work, crimes and death?  Anybody in the family wants their extended family to be the best family in the world with emphaty, sympathy, kindness, honesty, trust, flourishing joy, sustainable resources, contentment, respect, hope, peace, justice, faith, love and quality care.

Therefore, whether you have a birthday party or not, just pray that these birthday wishes will push true with God’s guidance, friends and family’s supports and  your positive attitude about life.